Forgiveness is an important act to do when it comes to forgiving both others, as well as own self.
We do not realize that by forgiving someone genuinely we heal ourselves and lessen our own karma baggage. Forgiveness not only takes away the hurt and the pain caused to us by another, but it literally extinguishes the past injury.
Many times our ego gets in the way of us forgiving others. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean that you forget what took place, or that you ever spend time with this person again. Forgiveness isn’t about doing something for the person or people who did something to you, but it’s about helping you and your own spiritual growth.
An easy way to forgive someone is by using the practice of Ho'oponopono. Ho'oponopono is a Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness and can be said as a prayer or mantra. It has to do with energy, meditation, responsibility, letting go, love, and gratitude.
Please forgive me.
I love you.
You do not have to say this to the person directly. It is like a mantra which could completely change our perception of what has been and hence what will be. By forgiving you are not giving in but letting go of your hurt emotions. Others may never know we have forgiven them and there is no need for them to know because it is not for them, but rather for your own growth.
When it comes to forgiving ourselves, when we don’t forgive ourselves, we are not fully accepting our broken and unhealed parts. Non-forgiveness is resistance, it is not acceptance, and it keeps creating our separation from self, and then re-enactments in our life of all that we haven’t forgiven ourselves for. (See Shadow Work.)